How Do You Talk to Children About Divorce?
While deciding to get divorced may be the hardest decision you’ve had to make, deciding how to tell your kids may be even more difficult. We know that as a parent, you want to shield them from the pain that comes with this process. Although there’s no easy way to break the news to them, these tips can help minimize the hurt.
Only tell your kids about your divorce once the decision is final. Involving them in the back-and-forth can be painful for them and make them feel like they do not have stability in their lives. Although there’s no “perfect” time to break the news, try to do it after you’ve taken some time to prepare. When it comes to telling kids about divorce, many parents freeze up and realize they don’t actually know what they’re going to say.
You can keep it simple: tell the truth, address any changes, and answer any questions in an empathetic way.
Tell Your Children Together
Though you and your spouse may have your disagreements, try to come together when telling your children. It helps kids to see that their parents are still working as a team, and will continue to do so even after the divorce. This will offer them some assurance of what lies ahead and will help avoid confusion.
Avoid Blaming Each Other
Most importantly, you should be honest with your kids, but without being critical of one another. It’s best to present a united front, which can be difficult when there are deep-rooted issues, but remember that it’s best for your kids. Do not divulge them with the details of extramarital affairs or financial issues as it may only upset them.
If you and your spouse have decided to divorce, we at the Law Office of Greg Quimby, P.C. are here for you and your family. A divorce can be a highly stressful experience, but we will protect you and your loved ones.