How to Tell If Your Marriage is On the Rocks

The End Could Be Near

It’s very normal for a married couple to have their fair share of arguments. However, when the number of arguments begins to vastly outnumber the number of positive interactions you share with your spouse, something bigger might be going on. If you’re worried about the current state of your marriage, here are several signs that might indicate to you that something is wrong.

No True Communication

Sure, there may still be talking going on between you and your spouse, but communication requires so much more than just the moving of lips. Effective communication requires openness, transparency, and listening. If you find that either you or your spouse is having a hard time opening up about things or isn’t willing to share how they are feeling, there may be a pause for concern.

Unpleasant Interactions

When you do finally have a conversation with your spouse, you might find that almost every single one of them ends up pretty negative. A marriage will certainly have its ups and downs, but if you find that almost every discussion with your spouse ends up turning into a down, it might be time to acknowledge where your relationship is.

Feel Like Roommates

A relationship with a spouse should feel special. You should feel like the time you spend with your spouse is meaningful, and you should enjoy sitting with your spouse doing every little activity around the house. If you feel as if you and your spouse have no deeper connection beyond sitting next to one another on the couch, there may be some deeper issues to address.

Decisions Feel Like a Chore

Little decisions and big decisions ranging from what to buy at the grocery store to where your vacation should be spent shouldn’t feel like you are pulling teeth. With marriage being a partnership, decisions should feel collaborative, and while some decisions are much more difficult than others, your decision-making process should be one involving conversation, negotiation, and ultimately collaboration.


When your marriage reaches a point where even the smallest decisions like what type of salad to have at dinner turn into a headache, something might be up with your marriage.

Preference to Avoid Your Partner

Part of marriage involves spending a lot of time with your spouse. If you’d rather spend time anywhere else other than with your spouse, you should consider taking a step back and examining your marriage as a whole.

Neither Of You Tries Anymore

Since marriage can be a challenge, it requires a lot of work to maintain and make better over time. If you find yourself choosing to ignore this need or you find that your spouse really isn’t trying their best to work through issues, then it may be time to move forward with considering a divorce.

Everyone, Including Yourself, Tells You It’s Over

Your family might be giving hints that you could be happier in another situation. Perhaps you are feeling serious doubts about the future of your relationship. If everything around you is telling you that your relationship is in trouble, it may be time to reevaluate your current path.

You Aren’t Happy

Above all of these signs, unhappiness is a big factor in determining if your marriage is in trouble. Marriage can be a happy time, despite the difficulties, and finding yourself constantly unhappy could be a major sign that you should consider a new step for your future.

Consult with a Colorado Divorce Attorney

If you’re unsure of what your next step should be, it might be helpful to discuss your situation with a divorce attorney; while deciding to get a divorce is your decision alone, an attorney can help you process how you are feeling and help you understand what your options are.

At Law Office of Greg Quimby, P.C., we know divorce is a big decision, and you might feel scared about how to start. We’re here to help you. To schedule a consultation, call us at (719) 212-4227 or visit us online.

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