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A Guide to Recovering from a Difficult Divorce

It’s been said that divorces are among life’s most painful experiences. If you’ve recently gone through an incredibly difficult one or you’re in the middle of it, we want you to know that there is hope. The healing process looks different for each person, but we’ve compiled a list of what you can do to start the process.

1. Start fresh and declutter.

It can be hard to move on when there are painful reminders of your broken marriage surrounding you. Try to get rid of these things so that you can clear your mind of these negative thoughts. This task should also help keep you busy as you recover.

2. Give yourself time to grieve.

It’s normal and healthy to grieve the end of a marriage. Don’t feel like you need to immediately jump back into the dating scene or have a smile on your face 24/7. Perhaps you can sort through mementos, pack it away, have a good cry, and then make a pact with yourself to focus on the positives. Feeling sad is expected at the beginning of your adjustment period, but it’s best to set a limit to move on.

3. Create new relationships and connect with old friends.

Evaluate your current relationships and strive to make new friendships. Find common ground with those who share the same hobbies and interests as you.

Now is the perfect time to reach out to old connections. When you’re swept up in a relationship, you inevitably lose touch with friends, whether it’s because of distance or a lifestyle change. With social media at our disposal, it’s easier than ever to reconnect with these people.

4. Get to know yourself again.

Become reacquainted with yourself. After being a part of a couple for so long, chances are you’re not used to single life and making independent decisions. What activities bring you joy? Try new things and do what makes you happy.

5. Don’t close the door on love.

As you recover from an especially difficult divorce, we urge you to stay open-minded. You should give yourself time before tackling another relationship, but don’t close off the idea forever. New people will come into your life, and so will the opportunity for love. Divorce is not the end of your life— it’s the beginning of a new, better chapter.

Our Colorado Springs attorneys are here to help you with your family law and estate planning matters. Call (719) 212-4227 or contact us online to schedule an appointment for a free consultation today.

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